Kimwe na mama, akazi ka papa karagoye ndetse rimwe na rimwe kakanababaza, karera abana. Ariko, bitandukanye na ba mama, ba papa akenshi ntibahabwa icyubahiro gihagije ku ruhare rwabo mu buzima bwacu.
Ni abahoberana, abakwirakwiza urwenya rubi kandi bica udukoko. Ba papa baradushimira iyo turi hejuru cyane kandi bakatwigisha uburyo bwo gutsinda iyo turi hasi cyane.
Papa yatwigishije guterera baseball cyangwa gukina umupira w'amaguru. Ubwo twatwaraga imodoka, bazanye amapine yacu yacitse n'ibisebe mu iduka kuko tutari tuzi ko dufite ipine yacitse kandi ko twatekerezaga ko hari ikibazo ku ipine ry'imodoka (mbabarira papa).
Mu rwego rwo kwizihiza Umunsi w’Ababyeyi muri uyu mwaka, Greeley Tribune ishimira ba se batandukanye bo mu gace kacu ivuga inkuru za ba se n’ibyo banyuzemo.
Dufite papa w'umukobwa, papa w'iyubahirizwa ry'amategeko, papa w'umwirera, papa w'umurera, papa w'umubyeyi wa se, papa w'umuzimyamuriro, papa mukuru, papa w'umuhungu, na papa ukiri muto.
Nubwo buri wese ari umubyeyi, buri wese afite inkuru ye yihariye n'uburyo abona icyo benshi muri bo bita "akazi keza ku isi".
Twakiriye urutonde rwinshi rw'iyi nkuru ruturutse mu baturage, kandi ikibabaje ni uko tutashoboye kwandika amazina ya buri mubyeyi wese. Ikinyamakuru The Tribune cyifuje guhindura iyi nkuru nk'igikorwa ngarukamwaka kugira ngo tubashe gutangaza inkuru nyinshi za ba data mu muryango wacu. Rero nyamuneka mwibuke aba ba data umwaka utaha, kuko twifuza kuba tubara inkuru zabo.
Mu myaka myinshi, Mike Peters yabaye umunyamakuru w’ikinyamakuru kugira ngo amenyeshe abaturage ba Greeley na Weld County ibyaha, polisi, n’andi makuru y’ingenzi. Akomeje kwandikira Tribune, agasangiza ibitekerezo bye mu "Rough Trombone" buri wa Gatandatu, kandi akandika raporo z’amateka mu gice cy’"Imyaka 100 ishize".
Nubwo kuba icyamamare mu muryango ari byiza ku banyamakuru, bishobora kubabaza abana babo.
“Niba nta muntu uvuga ati, 'Uri umwana wa Mike Peters,' ntaho ushobora kujya,” Vanessa Peters-Leonard yongeyeho amwenyura. “Buri wese azi data. Biraryoshye iyo abantu batamuzi.”
Mick yagize ati: “Mfite akazi kenshi na papa, ngahora mu mujyi rwagati, hanyuma nkagaruka igihe nta kibazo.” “Mfite akazi kenshi ko guhura n’itsinda ry’abantu. Birashimishije. Papa ari mu itangazamakuru ahura n’abantu b’ingeri zose. Kimwe mu bintu.”
Izina ryiza rya Mike Peters nk'umunyamakuru ryagize ingaruka zikomeye kuri Mick na Vanessa mu mikurire yabo.
Vanessa yasobanuye agira ati: “Niba hari icyo nize kuri data, ni urukundo n'ubunyangamugayo. Kuva ku kazi ke kugeza ku muryango we n'inshuti ze, uyu ni we. Abantu baramugirira icyizere bitewe n'ubunyangamugayo bwe mu kwandika, imibanire ye n'abantu, no kubafata mu buryo umuntu wese yifuza ko bamufata.”
Mick yavuze ko kwihangana no gutega amatwi abandi ari byo bintu bibiri by'ingenzi yigiye kuri se.
“Ugomba kwihangana, ugomba gutega amatwi,” Mick yaravuze. “Ni umwe mu bantu nzi bihangana cyane. Ndacyari kwiga kwihangana no gutega amatwi. Bitwara ubuzima bwose, ariko arabishoboye.”
Ikindi kintu abana ba Peters bize kuri se na nyina ni uko bagira ishyingiranwa ryiza n'imibanire myiza.
Vanessa yagize ati: “Baracyafitanye ubucuti bukomeye cyane, umubano ukomeye cyane. Aracyamwandikira amabaruwa y'urukundo. Ni ikintu gito cyane, nubwo nkiri mukuru, ndabireba ntekereza ko ari ko ishyingiranwa rikwiye kumera.”
Uko imyaka y'abana bawe yaba ingana kose, uzahora uri ababyeyi babo, ariko ku muryango wa Peters, uko Vanessa na Mick bakura, uyu mubano umeze nk'ubucuti.
Yicaye ku ntebe areba Vanessa na Mick, biroroshye kubona ishema, urukundo n'icyubahiro Mike Peters afitiye abana be babiri bakuru n'abantu babaye bo.
Mike Peters yavuze mu ijwi rye ryoroheje ati: “Dufite umuryango mwiza n'umuryango urangwa n'urukundo. Ndabishimiye cyane.”
Nubwo Vanessa na Mick bashobora kwandika ibintu byinshi bize kuri se mu myaka yashize, kuri se mushya Tommy Dyer, abana be babiri ni abarimu kandi ni umunyeshuri.
Tommy Dyer ni umwe mu ba nyiri Brix Brew and Tap. Aherereye kuri 8th St. 813, Tommy Dyer ni se w'abakobwa babiri b'abakobwa b'imisatsi y'umuhondo - Lyon w'imyaka 3 n'igice na Lucy w'amezi 8.
“Igihe twabyaraga umuhungu, twanatangije ubu bucuruzi, bityo nashoye amafaranga menshi mu gihe gito cyane,” Dell yagize ati. “Umwaka wa mbere wari urimo imihangayiko cyane. Byatwaye igihe kirekire kugira ngo menyere ububyeyi bwanjye. Sinigeze numva ndi umubyeyi kugeza igihe (Lucy) yavukiye.”
Nyuma y'uko Dale abyaye umukobwa we muto, uko yabonaga ibintu ku bijyanye no kuba umubyeyi byarahindutse. Ku bijyanye na Lucy, gusiganwa kwe gukomeye no gukubitana na Lyon ni ikintu atekerezaho kabiri.
“Numva meze nk'umurinzi. Nizeye kuba umugabo mu buzima bwe mbere y'uko ashaka,” yavuze ubwo yahoberaga umukobwa we muto.
Kubera ko Dell yari umubyeyi w'abana babiri bareba kandi bakinjira muri byose, yitoje kwihangana no kwita ku magambo ye n'ibikorwa bye.
Dell yagize ati: “Buri kintu cyose kibagiraho ingaruka, bityo ugomba kwemeza ko uvuga ibintu bikwiye iruhande rwabo. Ni nk’udusimba duto, bityo amagambo yawe n’ibikorwa byawe ni ingenzi.”
Ikintu kimwe Dyer akunda kubona ni uburyo imico ya Leon na Lucy ikura n'uburyo itandukanye.
Yagize ati: “Leon ni umuntu usanzwe ufite isuku, kandi ni umuntu usanzwe ufite akajagari, ufite umubiri wose.” “Birasekeje cyane.”
Yagize ati: “Mu by’ukuri, akora cyane. Hari amajoro menshi ntari mu rugo. Ariko ni byiza kugirana nabo umwanya mu gitondo no gukomeza kuringaniza. Iyi ni imbaraga zihuriweho z’umugabo n’umugore, kandi sinshobora kubikora ntari kumwe na we.”
Ubwo yabazwaga inama yagira abandi ba papa bashya, Dale yavuze ko papa atari ikintu ushobora gutegura. Byarabayeho, "urahindura ukabisobanukirwa".
Yagize ati: “Nta gitabo cyangwa ikindi kintu ushobora gusoma. Abantu bose baratandukanye kandi bazagira imimerere itandukanye. Rero inama yanjye ni ukwiringira imyumvire yawe no kugira umuryango n'inshuti iruhande rwawe.”
Biragoye kuba umubyeyi. Ababyeyi barera abana bonyine baragoye cyane. Ariko kuba umubyeyi urera umwana umwe w’igitsina gabo bishobora kuba kimwe mu bikorwa bigoye cyane.
Umuturage wa Greeley witwa Cory Hill n'umukobwa we w'imyaka 12 witwa Ariana babashije gutsinda ikibazo cyo kuba umubyeyi umwe, tutibagiwe no kuba se w'umukobwa wenyine. Hill yahawe uburenganzira bwo kurera abana ubwo Ariane yari afite hafi imyaka 3.
“Ndi umubyeyi ukiri muto;” Namubyaye mfite imyaka 20. Kimwe n’abashakanye benshi bakiri bato, ntabwo twakoraga siporo kubera impamvu zitandukanye,” Hill yasobanuye. “Nyina we ntari ahantu ashobora kumwitaho akeneye, bityo rero ni ngombwa ko njye ndamureka agakora akazi k’igihe cyose. Biguma muri iki gihe.”
Inshingano zo kuba se w'umwana muto zafashije Hill gukura vuba, kandi yashimiye umukobwa we “kumugirira ukuri no kumurinda kuba maso”.
Yagize ati: “Iyo ntaba mfite iyo nshingano, nashoboraga gukomeza ubuzima bwanjye ndi kumwe na we. Ndatekereza ko iki ari ikintu cyiza kandi ari umugisha kuri twembi.”
Kubera ko yakuriye afite umuvandimwe umwe gusa nta mushiki we wo kuvuga, Hill agomba kwiga byose ku bijyanye no kurera umukobwa we wenyine.
“Uko agenda akura, ni ukwiga. Ubu ari mu bwangavu, kandi hari ibintu byinshi sinzi uko nabyitwaramo cyangwa uko nabyitwaramo. Impinduka zo mu mubiri, hamwe n’impinduka zo mu byiyumvo nta n’umwe muri twe wigeze abona,” Hill yavuze amwenyura. “Ni ubwa mbere kuri twembi, kandi bishobora gutuma ibintu birushaho kuba byiza. Ntabwo ndi inzobere muri uru rwego kandi sinigeze mvuga ko ndi inzobere.”
Iyo havutse ibibazo nk'imihango, isutiye n'ibindi bibazo bifitanye isano n'abagore, Hill na Ariana bakorana kugira ngo babikemure, bakore ubushakashatsi ku bicuruzwa ndetse banaganire n'inshuti n'imiryango y'abagore.
“Afite amahirwe yo kugira abarimu beza mu mashuri abanza, kandi we n'ubwoko bw'abarimu bafitanye isano rya bugufi bamushyize munsi y'uburinzi bwabo kandi bamuha umwanya w'umubyeyi,” Hill yagize ati. “Ndatekereza ko bifasha cyane. Atekereza ko hari abagore bamukikije bashobora kubona ibyo ntashobora kumuha.”
Izindi mbogamizi Hill ahura nazo nk'umubyeyi urera abana wenyine zirimo kudashobora kujya ahantu hose icyarimwe, kuba ari we wenyine ufata ibyemezo no kuba ari we wenyine utunga abana.
“Ugomba gufata icyemezo cyawe bwite. Nta gitekerezo cya kabiri ufite cyo guhagarika cyangwa gufasha gukemura iki kibazo,” Hill yagize ati. “Bihora bigoye, kandi byongera stress, kuko niba ntashobora kurera uyu mwana neza, byose ni njye ubishingiraho.”
Hill azatanga inama ku bandi babyeyi barera abana bonyine, cyane cyane ba se basanze ari ababyeyi barera abana bonyine, ko ugomba gushaka uburyo bwo gukemura ikibazo no kugikora intambwe ku yindi.
“Ubwo nabonaga uburenganzira bwo kurera Ariana bwa mbere, nari nshishikajwe n’akazi; nta mafaranga nari mfite; nagombaga kuguza amafaranga yo gukodesha inzu. Twagize ingorane igihe gito,” Hill yagize ati. “Ibi ni ibisazi. Sinigeze ntekereza ko twazagera kuri ibi, ariko ubu dufite inzu nziza, ubucuruzi bukorwa neza. Biratangaje kubona ubushobozi ufite mu gihe utabizi. Haguruka.”
Ubwo yatangiraga kuvuga ibya Kelsey, Anderson yari yicaye muri resitora y'umuryango yitwa The Bricktop Grill.
“Data wambyaye ntabwo ari mu buzima bwanjye na gato. Ntahamagara; ntagenzura, nta kintu na kimwe gihari, bityo sinigeze mmufata nk'umubyeyi wanjye,” Anderson yagize ati: “Igihe nari mfite imyaka 3, nabajije Kelsey niba yiteguye kuba data, maze arabyemera. Yakoraga ibintu byinshi. Yahoraga amukikije, ibyo bikaba ari ingenzi cyane kuri njye.”
Yagize ati: “Mu mashuri yisumbuye no mu mwaka wanjye wa mbere n’uwa kabiri, yambwiye iby’ishuri n’akamaro k’ishuri. Nibwiraga ko yashakaga kunderera gusa, ariko nabyize nyuma yo gutsindwa amasomo make.”
Nubwo Anderson yafashe amasomo kuri interineti kubera icyorezo, yibutse ko Kelsey yamusabaga kubyuka kare kugira ngo yitegure ishuri, nk'aho yagiye mu ishuri imbonankubone.
Anderson yagize ati: “Hari ingengabihe yuzuye, bityo dushobora kurangiza akazi k’ishuri kandi tugahora dushishikajwe.”